August 11, 2009

Friends, Relationships and Marriage!

Life is a journey... an endless one! And, in this journey we meet 'n' number of people...and we can categorize each one of them...

A few people just come, stay for a while and then vanish...
Some come, teach you a few things, leave a mark and go...
Some come, stay with you, but they have hardly anything to do with your life...
There is another category... these people come, stay, make an impression and continue to inspire and motivate you throughout!

We generally get along with people with similar interests or with people with a completely different set of opinions, isn't it? Some become our friends, some best friends and some more than friends... of course, not to forget, there are a few relations to which there are no names! :)

Once we get into a relationship, the dynamics are altogether very different. They say that people tend to change when they are in love... we forget about everyone...
My purpose of this post is...to argue whether it is good to be in a relationship always or whether it is better getting married! There may be varied opinions about the same! One of my friend really believes in that 'live-in' concept... according to him, everything changes after the marriage! Kids, responsibilities, questions... to cut it short, it becomes a 'living-in-hell' sort of an experience!

Many say...relationships are the best. No matter whether you are committed or not...you always have that freedom with you... you can choose whatever you want to do... whenever you want to do! If at any point of time, you feel that he/she is not the right one for you, you have all the rights to 'move-on'.

Coming to the other side of the coin... I prefer getting married! Be it arranged or love, there is always a special feeling attached to it! The feeling in itself...that you are now going to spend your life with this guy/girl...how exciting! As my friend Arv says... 'Wife is for life, whereas a partner would become just a memory some day'... that is so true!

In a married sort of a life, you have someone by your side always...when you need them and also when you don't need them. In a relationship, there is always a risk! In a married life, one evolves as a human being with a lot more maturity which comes as a result of the different responsibilities he/she has...but in a relationship devoid of responsibilities, there is a certain lack of maturity!

There are lot many things that people learn after getting married... patience, perseverance... they learn how to hold on to things, how to make each day better, how to live for that special one, how to sacrifice and still not repent or crib... that is commitment! I know it is difficult for those who advocate live-in relationships to understand what I mean! I know they think its bullshit! There are many others who would agree to what I feel...

Love never dies... be it a relationship or marriage... Love teaches you a lot of things... Its sometimes sweet, sometimes painful... the best teacher! I myself wrote a post on whether love fades away with time... I guess not. It is up to you to keep it alive!! Just like you make sure that nothing goes wrong when you are in a relationship... the same way things can be taken care of when you are married!

A great marriage is not when the 'perfect couple' come together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences. So true! :)

11 comments:

Sowmi said...

Artz sweeeeeeeeeeeeeet this is..... and last line is the highlight of the post....

Marriage is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences..

This is so so so true... cuz I see ma mom and dad!! :)

and agree that marriage gives you committment, responsibility :)
How long we can be irresponsible??? We need someone to be with us atleast during our last days :) and Living for our spouse is the best thing. We live for someone in life, its a great achievement in itself... :)

Coming to keeping the love burning.. again if we manage that, life is a paradise :) Believe me I see my sir and his wife... They are old but still any couple will envy at them.. the way they show love to each other is just so so wonderful :)

We see various stages and various ways to keep the love burning in a marriage :)

Imagine, we are gonna have someone for us... fully for us... for our lifetime.. isn't that great??

Lovely Post :)

h said...

it has touched me deeply :) neways ur too young to get married so it's fun time :P remember to marry a fun person when u do marry, otherwise u'll get real bored down the line.. :D

Kaka said...

beautiful post...i always feel that girls are in a hurry to get married whereas guys would dally on that for some reason watsoever...:)

Kaka said...

ya thanx for dropping by my blog...u have a nice blog...keep blogging..:)

Anurag said...

Wow ..Somebody really believes in the institute of marriage....

But don't you think the line you quoted is for those who go for an arrange marriage ??

But anyway, My opinion on this To Each, his own ..What you said may not appeal to me, (although it does in reality :P) but I am still choose to ignore it...It's the mentality or the thinking of one person which decides what right for his own individual self :)

Arun Kumar said...

hmmmm.. I'm not exactly that experienced to make a comment on this topic... but yeah i accept with the fact... Love never dies... Its just the lovers that stop living..

n wow... that last line was beautiful... awesome..

Shravan | ശ്രവണ്‍ said...

as of now, i stand for LIR.. may be is coz, as someone said, kid its all coz of your age you think this way and one day you will change.. may be i will :)

the last lines :) "A great marriage is not when the 'perfect couple' come together. It is when an imperfect couple learns to enjoy their differences. So true!"

so true :) but just as to say, what if they dont get along well?

Chriz said...

unity in diversity.. i remember you :)

Arv said...

uber kewl post with solid points :)

loved it da...

love and care is the key in any relationship as you point out :)

marriage only solidifies it more, thats all :)

take care da...

cheers...

ghostrider said...

oki find me a wife now,,want to try it out :P

ghostrider said...

oki find me a wife now,,want to try it out :P