June 2, 2009

Wedding bells ringing?


Birthdays were so much fun till I was 18 or 19 years old. My 20th birthday made me realize that I was no more a kid. My college friend got engaged when she was 20.

My 21st birthday... 12th Jan, 2009... it got me scared! There was no flavour of happiness anymore. It was just another day, yet it had something serious attached to it. I was growing an year older. Why was I sad? Why was I not happy like I used to be? May be the very meaning of the day had changed...

An year older...
The first thing that comes to my mind is - I can anytime hear the wedding bells ringing! Damn!
Ever thought about it seriously? C'mon girls...think about it! I have started to think a lot about it!

So many of my friends are getting married so soon...


The engagement ceremony, haldi ceremony, henna, laughters, music playing loud and all that jazz...!
Just yesterday she was a happy-go-lucky sort of a girl and today all of a sudden, her life takes a big turn...the biggest turn! What would she be feeling? Wasn't she so free from all responsibilities till now? Wasn't she free to get up at 10 A.M. in the morning and still not be answerable to anyone? Wasn't she free to enjoy that 'laughter'? Wasn't she free to speak to anyone she wanted to? Wasn't she free to do no household chores and still not be blamed for it?

And now, she would be so much more accountable to everyone in her family. Her life is no more hers. It would always be about her husband, her kids, her in-laws and then about her. So many responsibilities all of a sudden, her thoughts, her fears... no one can answer them!

One of my friends just got married on May 31st... What I could see on her face was more than just happiness, she was tensed...she did not know what will happen... she had so many things to look after. This was the time when she would have to build up the base of the most important relationship of her life... a relationship that would determine her future! Everything would be on her... maintaining the house, taking care of every household activity, building strong relationships with everyone, it would now be about 'her family'.

With every single day passing, my heart is skipping a beat! I just pray that 'THE DAY' never comes. I am behaving like an idiot I know. But that is what any girl would feel. Every single discussions we have without our parents about getting married at the age of 25 and not before that... stops making sense as soon as they find a good guy! Hah!
It almost seems that we never had a life of our own...nor would we ever have. Sigh!!

My message to my friends who are going to get married -
We know we can't help it, isn't it? We epitomize strength. We can handle it girls...
Get married... You can do it... Shrug away all the fears, break all the inhibitions! :)
May you be blessed with all the happiness and strength. Stay blessed! :)
*HUGS*

18 comments:

Leo said...

i know only one gal who's gettin married & i wish only d best for her always :)

may she be blessed with all d happiness...

artz, the words came out well enough in the end :)
i think this is how my sis feels too, but these days am not sure of it.

Satans Darling™ said...

Ah well.. My dad was seen having a look at my Kundali mysteriously a couple of days ago. Grr... I don't wanna get married :(((((((

Priyanka said...

ohhh...wedding bells!!!
they r ringing here too!!
n i m damn scared!!!
a constant fear!!!
pata nahi kya hoga!!

well expressed da!

Aarthi said...

@ Leo,

I wish the same for her da! God bless her... :)

Arjun said...

I understand what u mean.. :)

But the responsibilities that u carry after marriage are 'happy' responsibilities.... kids.. in-laws... all of them... But then yeah, it depends on the guy basically...

But hey.. nothing so scary.. :P

n for god's sake be Happy On Ur b'day....

Just an observation... U think tooo ahead at times da... I told u na.. Think abt today and tomoro.. not yesterday and day-after -tomoro... :P

Today's class is over.. run.. ;)

Cheers..!!
Arjun

Aarthi said...

@ Ashrita,

It feels weird, ain't it? Something that can not be put in words!

Grrr... :P

Aarthi said...

@ Priyanka,

Mubarakan jiii... :)

Nothing will happen Priyanka, sab theek ho jayega! :)

P.S.: Me waiting for your wedding card.

Aarthi said...

@ RJ,

Yep, I know I think far too ahead...

But this topic is something that hits every girl of my age dear! :)
:P

Thank you saaaar! :P

*Picks up her books, stuffs them into her bag and runs*
Yaysssss! :)

Arjun said...

Okay.. Over to all the girls of ur age.... hehe .. ;)

Chaarz said...

Wedding bells...
Man, its like a sword hanging on our neck the very Moment we Turn 21-22..
Nothing scares me more than this WORD called Marriage..
Its a second life for a Woman..

You have expressed the inhibitions and fears very well...

Aarthi said...

@ Chaarz,

SWORD... the perfect word!! :)

I completely agree with what you said! :)

~PrIncEsS nUcHu~ said...

Aartz..

I feel verrrrrrry OLD now!

I am married for two years already! :( And Im juz 21 ..

Enna koduma ithu!

Aarthi said...

Aiyo... its okay da!

What keeps me happy is that you are happy! And Ziyaad is a nice guy, so you need not take any tension!

Love!

chirag said...

hmmm lagta hain kisi ko jaldi hain shadi ki

Aarthi said...

Haan beta teri karva deti hu main shaadi!

Chronicwriter said...

from the post, i can see that you are actually excited about the whole marriage thingie.. hope ill be hearing the good news very very soon..

chriz

Arun Kumar said...

he he... fear for wedding bells has started already...??? my sis got married at 21... had to sacrifice a lotta things... so i wudn't recommend that...

But...why fear..?? jus live for today...

The Pink Orchid said...

itna saara gyaan meri sherni... :D